Um yeah ... so I'm a little dumb. So I picked the name of these posts as "fugly fridays" because I liked the alliteration. I thought "fugly" was just a way of saying super-ugly or über-ugly or very-ugly.
I just found out it is actually an abbreviation, or a portmanteau, of f...in' ugly. I'm not offended by swearing in some contexts. I do use swear words occassionally. I just try not to do so regularly, and I try to avoid it in print altogether.
I can't believe I didn't realize that. I'm a little naïve sometimes.
I also changed my focus on last week's post from pictures of horrendous weddings (and I would argue that the Fugly Fridays I featured were ugly to anyone's sensibilities) to featuring horrible stories. I also read a Buddhist teaching that if something is not beneficial, one should not say it. I'm not Buddhist, but I think many of its teachings are good, ethical ways to live, and are in balance with concepts in many religions, including Christianity. I think that ideal, of not saying things that are not beneficial, is a small step I can take to become a better person. Honestly, it'll be hard, but I'm going to try.
In that effort, I think that evaluating actions that I do not wish to embody is a better focus for my future "Fugly Fridays".
What do you think of this change? Will you still read the posts?
P.S. I will still look at those pictures of the ugly dresses and wonder, "what was she thinking?" Don't get me wrong here!
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